Thursday, January 08, 2009

My Most Important Job

My kids all have tell-tale signs when they are not getting enough personal attention. But with Haylee, it's very obvious. She makes a big deal out of everything and incessantly picks at her brothers and sisters. On Monday, I reminded her that instead of acting up, she should just talk to me. She opened up and I promised her that I would make time by Saturday to spend a couple of hours just with her.

Today just happened to be one of those days. You know the kind where everything I had planned ended up taking twice as long as I thought it would. And then just when I finally thought I was making progress, I realized that I left the thing at home that I needed to bring to do the thing I was planning on doing.

I finally walked in the door to eat and then get prepared for my last task of the day- my coupon shopping. There was Haylee with her 2 Utah Flash tickets that she got for free from a field trip. The game started at 7:15 p.m. I wanted so badly to tell her that we would go some other time.... but the thought came to me that in 10 years I wouldn't remember that my shopping never got done but she would remember that I kept putting her off. She would remember that she wasn't a priority right that moment.

So we went and we had a great time. She talked the whole way there (that's another tell-tale sign she is craving attention). I couldn't even follow a lot of the conversation - I just kept nodding and hmmming. And we both enjoyed the basketball game- we joked around and had fun.

And what's a basketball game without one of those huge fingers?


5 comments:

sararndt said...

What a Great mom you are! You inspire me and it was so nice to get to know you a little better the other day! Thanks!

Sarah said...

That is so great. I think it's really important to spend one-on-one time with each kid. It is so hard. I constantly feel like I tell my kids, "I can't do that right now", or "Mom's busy, just a minute". Good for you for taking the time to do it!

Amberlyn said...

I'm glad you took the time to Stop, Look and listen. You stopped doing what you thought was important, you looked at the situation and Haylee and listened to her needs and acted on them. I am constantly learning from your example and how to be a better Mom.

When I grow up, I want to be just like you.

The "Wild West's" said...

Looks like you both had fun! Sometimes it is the little things in life that seems hard to do or stop to do, that always end up being the funnest! Thanks for puting me back in check with what is really most important in life!!

Robin said...

Good Choice!